7 Sure Shot Ways To Get You Out Of A Sex Slump And End That Dry Spell Once And For All
Everyone, once in their lives, gets stuck in a sex slump or a dry spell which may lead to absolute clueless ness on how to end the phase. It could be because you just got out of a long term relationship and weren’t really ready to hit the sack with another person or you just haven’t had enough opportunity with women to have random sex here and there. Whatever it is, it’s really nothing to panic about.
A sexual dry spell can last for a year to a few months or even a few weeks. If you were regular at having sex and are experiencing a slump period, then even a week or two without it may seem unbearable and when you do get out of it, you may be a little confused about re-exploring your sexuality. Especially when you come out of a long term relationship where you’ve been having sex with just one person and want to come out of the slump stage. It’s a tad difficult but definitely achievable.
Here are a few ways you can get back in the game like you never left, to begin with!
Get In Shape
Exercising really helps release a lot of pent-up sexual energy. It’s good to hit the gym or do some yoga to release held up testosterones in order to not rush your sex drive when the times comes. Plus exercising makes you a happier person, so you’re not frustrated or grumpy due to the lack of sex. Exercising also makes you perform and last better in bed, if you haven’t had sex in a while i.e.
Go On At Least 10 Dates Before Having Sex
Due to the dry spell, your expectations to have sex must have risen or lowered so it’s wise to test the waters before diving in. Go on at least 10 dates with different women or the same to figure the aspirations you want to set for yourself and build that confidence you probably lost out on during your dry spell.
You will probably know, through going on different dates, how to go about the game all over again and if you want to indulge in just casual sex or emotionally involving sex or both. Once you build that criteria, your ego and your self confidence will be boosted on its own.
Indulge in ‘Quickies’
Quickies don’t necessarily lead to sex but they lead to sensual stimulation and increase in oxytocin levels. If you’re having a dry spell while in a relationship it is best to indulge in short and intense cuddles or quickies that don’t lead to sex but build anticipation and sexual self esteem. If you’re just going out on dates to build that credibility again, making out sessions or quickies are a good way to get back to your active sex life. It also builds heaps of confidence to eventually go all the way.
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Dial Down The Graphic Content
While it’s healthy to indulge in porn and give yourself a treat every now and then, it’s actually counter productive if you’re trying to nurse your sex life back to good health. Porn can get a bit addictive during a dry spell because all your sexual energy is channelled there and there are very little attempt is made at finding something real. Porn may satisfy a short term craving but it’s the wrong form of nutrition if you’re trying to break a pattern.
Men who spend hours indulging in a digital fantasy may face social and sexual problems connecting with women altogether. We aren’t saying stop watching porn altogether but if you wanna get out of that dry spell, log off for a bit and get real!
Change Your Style
Maybe it’s time to change your style and your attitude and avoid fads. Keep it simple, keep it classic and create you own style that will organically attract women to you. Maybe you’re still supporting a hairstyle that was big in the early 2000’s or the clothes you wear were last seen on Clint Eastwood. A little change in style couldn’t hurt really.
Try Out Online Dating
There are 1000 different ways to meet women and you really need variety while coming out of a dry spell. If you’re out from a long term relationship, it wouldn’t be such a bad idea to embrace online dating and see the kinda women you want to test the waters with. You’ll be surprised to know how many fish you actually come across!
Be Prepared For Bedroom Malfunction(s)
After a long sexual haul, there is a possibility you may not be able to perform in bed as per your expectation. Pre-mature ejaculation or even flaccidity is a very temporary symptom of a sexual dry spell. There will always be fears, anxieties and pressure that will be part and parcel of someone trying to break away from a dry spell.
The trick is to not let them get to you and try and relax. The transition, although may take time, is quite smooth sans the nervousness. Just don’t let the panic take you back to the slump!
Apart from all these things you can try, you must remember a dry spell is part psychological as well. It’s your brain going into sleep mode, getting comfortable with not fending for a basic cardinal need. Sooner or later, the lack of sex does affect you psychosomatically and if you realise it’s affecting you in a negative way, you know how to avoid a dry spell now.